Why You Need Girlfriends: from the Girl who Hangs with the Guys

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I used to dislike “girlfriends”. There was a time in my life when I just hung out with guys, because they were easier. I didn’t have to worry they were judging me for not being pretty enough or funny enough or just… enough. Some of this was based on my own insecurities, but you know full well my fears weren’t completely unfounded. Girls can be mean.

Let me also state that I hate “fake”. I hate when people are fake with me, and I hate when that, in turn, forces me to be fake with them. I despise it. This cut out about two-thirds of all girls as potential friends growing up. (I always had one close friend who was a girl, but otherwise I surrounded myself with guys – it was safer.) 

Fast forward to tonight. Five women. Different cultures, different walks of life, different situations, gathered in a Starbucks being totally REAL with each other. Walls down. Hearts open. Talking about life and God and love and there is not a hint of “fake-ness”. Not a drop. Nor a smidgen. Just 100 percent real-ness and we are having the time of our lives.

We’re hitting every topic from loving God to inappropriate ways to wear bikini bottoms. And I love it. God, I love it! So much. I love that we can all be real and open and there is no judgment. I love that we can all be godly, christian women and yet no one is pretending to have it together, and no one is playing the holier-than-thou-card. It’s just so beautiful. So gloriously beautiful. This is what girlfriends are supposed to be.

It’s figuring out life together. It’s having someone to relate to. It’s someone to text when your day has gone down the crapper and you just need some prayer and an encouraging word. Oh my word! I don’t know what I would do without my girlfriends now! Thank God for them. Thank God I didn’t stay the way I was. Thank God I didn’t let the fear of rejection or judgment keep me from making friends. I would be missing out on so much! I’d be missing out on the fun, the laughter, the support, the quality time. I would be missing out on LIFE!

Don’t let fear hold you back. Don’t let insecurity steal your friendships. The beautiful thing about women is that we are all different. We are different shapes, sizes, and colors. We have different strengths, talents, and abilities. It’s what makes us strong. Together we are unbeatable – a force to be reckoned with. Find yourself some girlfriends, and go do life with them. We are not meant to go it alone.

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